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Thursday, December 11, 2014

Recent Happenings in My New Toyama Life :My Reggae Party, Snowy Mountains, My Music Video Coming Soon .....

Day 2432 ( My First Hosting of a Reggae Party )
Saturday, November 15, 2014

I was getting really bored and depressed in Toyama. Luckily I made a few friends here and there by going random places in town. so while I'm bored out of my wits, the good thing is lots and lots of ideas flow through my mind. One such is this reggae party......

It started off slow but eventually people started coming in. By every indication, it seem like people enjoyed it.



Day 2439 ( On the Snowy Mountains of Tateyama )
Saturday, November 22, 2014

Been in Toyama now since May. That makes it exactly 7 months today....wow. 3 more months to go in order to find out if I'll continue here or head back to the city. Anyway, went up some snowy mountains, just for the sake of going there. I hope to go there again some other time when the wall of snow can be seen.



Day 2446 ( Thanksgiving Party )
Saturday, November 29, 2014

A recent friend of mine who runs a capoeira  school, had a Thanksgiving party today. Loads of kids and parents came. I had no clue what capoeira was until I saw it. It's some kind of Brazilian style dance and fighting combined kinda thing.

Ok that wasn't the Thanksgiving party, this was......

Day 2447 ( The Making of My 1st Music Video )
Sunday, November 30, 2014

Again because of my boredom, I got the idea to make a music video here in Toyama. Actually, I had this idea for a while now in the back of my head, but its the boredom that got me moving. Luckily I have some video shooting and picture taking friends in the area. Plus some beautiful ladies who were willing to participate in creating the video. As soon as it is out you will definitely see it .... Here are the models I used :

Sunday, December 7, 2014

News in Japan: What do Japanese college students think about U.S.? / Japanese wives in int'l marriages share what they hate about Christmas overseas

What do Japanese college students think about U.S.?

By KK Miller - Japan Today

World opinion of the United States goes up and down like a giant see-saw. Sometimes the U.S. is seen as a world leader in economics, science and technology; yet there is no denying the fact that around the globe, there are some groups that harbor negative feelings towards Americans.
Post WWII, there has been an incredibly strong bond between the U.S. and Japan, but has public opinion been swayed in recent years? If this small sampling of college students is representative of how the youth of Japan feel about the U.S., relations between the two countries will continue to be solid.
A husband and wife team of YouTubers (Rachel & Jun) are beginning a series of “What Japanese think of (insert country)” and they’ve started with the good ‘ol US of A. Seems like a logical place to start, most Japanese people are familiar with America in some way, and America (the country) always wants to know what other people think about it.
Here’s what the students had to say:
1. What comes to mind when you think about America?
“Big!” “Freedom!” “Dunkin’ Donuts!”
The most common answer to this question though was, “There are many people from many different countries that live in America.” Due to this diversity, the Japanese students thought Americans were generally more cheerful and friendly, not shy like they usually are.
Some people also remarked on the size of portions in the U.S. (this will come up again later), and apparently the only thing that Americans eat are hamburgers.
2. What are the good and bad stereotypes that Japanese have of Americans?
Almost everyone said that Americans are “open and friendly”, that they are “sociable and not shy”. Some mentioned how Americans are very accepting, perhaps because there are many people from different countries who live in the U.S.
While many mentioned other “good stereotypes,” there were some major “bad stereotypes” that they brought up as well, particularly weight and gun crimes. The overweight stereotype is no surprise since if food portions are bigger, there will be more calories. Gun crime seems like an obvious one as well, as all anyone needs to do is turn on the news to hear about the latest gun-related death in America.
3. Would you like to go to America? (Specifically, where?)
Perhaps it’s a sign of the changing times for the Japanese, but most of these college students have already visited the United States at least once. Their trip was memorable enough that many of them want to go back soon. Common places they wanted to visit were New York, California, Boston and of course, Disneyland.
4. Pop quiz!
The final segment asked some general knowledge questions about the U.S. With the United States being such a huge world player and the fact that Japan can receive U.S. television channels via satellite, even college students in Japan can answer questions like:
“Name a famous person from America.”
“Who is the leader of America?”
“What is the capital of America?”
Each person was able to correctly answer the questions without much trouble. Maybe the only amusing moments were how many people seemed awkwardly stumped by the second question after they already said “Barack Obama” for the first question.
What started as a potentially embarrassing video for either the United States or Japan, turned out to be a nice sit down love-fest. We’d would love to see this kind of video done in reverse: What do Americans think about Japan? "




Japanese wives in int'l marriages share what they hate about Christmas overseas

By Casey Baseel - Japan Today

Christmas. Depending on who you are, it can be a time for getting together with family and friends, attending religious services, or maybe just drinking a lot of egg nog. But while all of those are activities of profound cultural and spiritual importance, not everyone has a song in their heart at this time of year.
For a certain set of Japanese women in international marriages and living overseas, ‘tis the season for venting about how Americans and Europeans spend Christmas, and here’s their list of grievances.
The collection of complaints comes by way of blogging internationalist, and overseas Japanese wife herself, Madame Riri. In contrast to the myriad delights of the “12 Days of Christmas” (with the exception of those weird leaping lords), Madame Riri identified six problem areas while sifting through online comments from Japanese expats.
1. Christmas dinner issues
Japan tends to eat smaller portions than the West to begin with, and that difference gets multiplied when it comes to celebrations. “I don’t like meat very much,” begins one woman, “but my American husband, his British mom, and his American dad all love it. But I can’t tell them ‘I don’t want any turkey,’ so I force myself to eat it.”
Honestly, this woman would probably have a similar problem in Japan, where the traditional Christmas dinner is the even heavier fried chicken.
Even some more carnivorous women find the holiday menu doesn’t suit their tastes. “It’s like, ‘Are you kidding me?’” exclaimed one exasperated woman. “The amount of cream, cheese, and sauce in the recipes! I love Asian cooking, so it’s exhausting for me to make them.”
Speaking as a guy who thinks the two best places for cheese are on top of a pizza and absolutely nowhere else, I can sympathize. Still, it’s just one meal a year, and if she’s really that loath to give up the foods she loves, why not incorporate them into the meal, like many American families do with dishes from their ethnic backgrounds?
2. Choosing presents is a pain
Many women have a bone to pick with picking out presents. In Japan, young couples typically exchange Christmas gifts, and Santa usually brings something to the homes of small children. Extended family members generally don’t give each other anything for the holiday, though.
Instead, relatives often send mid-year (“ochugen”) and end of the year (“oseibo”) gifts to each other. These are often practical things, though, like detergent or rice.
So it can be kind of a high hurdle for Japanese wives to suddenly have to think about what to get for each and every one of their spouse’s aunts, uncles, and cousins, especially since in some countries consumables aren’t quite as accepted as proper presents as they are in Japan.
3. Pushy present requests
Sometimes, though, the problem is knowing all too well what someone wants. “My brother-in-law’s ex-wife used to send emails with a list of options to choose from for gifts for her and their kids,” remembered one woman. “And she’d always add, ‘Oh, and don’t forget the gift receipt!’”
Umm…I hate to spoil anyone’s cross-cultural epiphany, but that’s not exactly most Westerners’ idea of particularly polite behavior either, and plenty of non-Japanese people would be just as irked by it.
As long as the prices are in line with what the family tends to use as its gift-giving budget, though, it doesn’t seem like there’s that much to get worked up about here. Actually, since this is something the brother-in-law’s ex-wife did, there doesn’t seem to be anything worth still getting worked up over at all.

4. Wrapping gifts is a hassle
We’ll start with the head-scratcher here. One woman said, “Because Japanese people have an allergic reaction to wastefulness, no matter how many years I spend overseas, using wrapping paper still doesn’t sit right with me.”
The complaint about the trash generated by wrapping is a valid one, but it’s a little hard to swallow that Japan has an “allergic reaction” to excessive packaging, as anyone who’s torn into a bag of two-dozen cookies each with their own individual plastic wrapper can tell you.
A more legitimate cultural difference is the other complaint Japanese wives had: having to do the wrapping themselves. After all, in Japan, where retailers take customer service very seriously, you can get just about anything wrapped for you by the store clerk. Overseas, though, when they’re buying stuff for everyone in the family and wrapping it themselves, that’s a lot of time spent folding and taping paper, no matter how festive the pattern on it may be.
5. Getting stuck with presents you don’t like
Again, this really isn’t something that’s exclusive to international relationships, as even when both parties are Japanese, some people’s gift-selecting skills are far from world-class. Still, the above-mentioned gift exchanges between extended family members, who might not see each other that often during the rest of the year, can make for an increased chance of miscues. “Every year, my mother-in-law sends me so many clothes, cosmetics, and decorations, but they’re not really my style…I can’t bring myself to throw them out right away, but after they sit around in my closet for two or three years, I toss them.”
6. Exchanging and returning gifts
After all the effort that they put into choosing a present, some women were miffed at the ease with which they could be returned or exchanged, giving special mention to the ubiquitous of gift receipts. “I work part-time at a retailer in Europe,” shared one woman, “and every day we get one or two customers coming in to exchange a Christmas gift they don’t like. It’s usually wives with things they got from their husbands.”
Part of the reason Japan doesn’t have as much of a culture of returning gifts is because, like we talked about above, gifts between people that aren’t especially close are often consumables. Even if the dish soap your relative sent you isn’t your regular brand, you’ll still use up the bottles, right? Ditto for cans of booze.
It’s also worth noting that Japan tends to be a bit less fragmented than many other countries in terms of pop culture and fashion. Combine some fairly uniform clothing tastes and trends with the fact that a huge portion of the population is of similarly slender build, and you’ve got a much higher chance of picking something the recipient will like, and that will fit, in Japan than elsewhere.
It’s also hard not to feel like complaint #6, gift returns, and complaint #5, getting things you don’t want, kind of cancel each other out. Ditto for numbers two and three, not knowing what to buy and people telling you what they want.
International marriage is all about adapting to each other and mixing your traditions. Picking which side of the two lines above you feel more comfortable on immediately cuts the list of problems down from six to four, with one of those being as simple as putting up with a single dinner you’re not crazy about. When you stop and look at the big picture, that doesn’t seem like enough to outweigh the positives of the holiday season, and besides, after Christmas, these Japanese wives can have their husbands return the favor with a traditional Japanese “oshogatsu” New Year’s celebration.



Man attacks schoolgirl, cuts her hair

Japan Today

Police in Izumiotsu City, Osaka Prefecture, said Friday they are looking for a man who attacked a junior high schoolgirl and cut off her ponytail.
Police said the incident occurred as the girl was walking to school at around 6:30 a.m. on Thursday.
TV Asahi reported that the girl told police the man, whom she did not know, called out to her from behind to wait a minute. The man grabbed her and cut about 20 cm of her ponytail before running away with the stolen locks.
The man is said to be in his 30s, approximately 180 cm tall, has a round plump face, and was wearing a black knitted cap and white face mask at the time of the assault.

Sunday, November 30, 2014

New Ad To Show Japan in all it's Glory... Really??? / Aging Japan struggles to make immigrants feel at home / Parents arrested for starving 3-year-old daughter to death

New ad campaign features Japan in all its stunning glory

Call me strange but I don't understand the idea behind a blonde in an ad about Japan.

By Oona McGee - Japan Today

If you’ve ever visited Japan and fallen in love with its beauty and culture, prepare to be swept off your feet again with the latest ad campaign from Guess.

Shot by famed Chinese photographer Chen Man, the photos (see below) take us on a journey through cherry blossoms and tea houses, featuring girls with samurai swords and parasols.

From Tokyo to Mount Fuji, the series features Japan’s wild and peaceful landscapes, while paying homage to the country’s traditional roots and modern lifestyle at the same time. The result is two models who come off looking both elegant and bad-ass.

One thought-provoking image stands out for its allusion to gender stereotypes and femininity. When a girl puts down a pole flying pink koinobori carp, traditionally used as a symbol of strength for the Boys’ Day national holiday (now known as Childrens’ Day), you know she’s heralding a new dawn for gender stereotypes.
Another photo featuring dramatic red and black looks, styled by Satoshi Hirata, pays homage to Japan’s long rickshaw tradition, which is still going strong today. The black, shiny rickshaws can be seen at tourist spots with passengers draped in bright red blankets to shield themselves from the cold.

Then there is a hanami picnic under the cherry blossoms. The model’s adoring gaze up into the cherry blossom tree makes the viewer feel like a pretty little bird.
How about the shinkansen bullet train meets samurai steam punk as it passes through rice fields beside Mount Fuji on its way up to Tokyo.



Aging Japan struggles to make immigrants feel at home

The first word Mr En learned when he started work on a construction site in Japan after moving from China was “baka”—“idiot”.
The 31-year-old farmer is one of 50,000 Chinese who signed up for a scheme run by the Japanese government that promises to allow foreigners to earn money while they train on the job.
Like many of his compatriots, he hoped to leave Japan with cash in his pocket and a new set of skills that would give him greater chance of getting work at home.
“My Japanese colleagues would always say ‘baka’ to me,” said En, who spoke to AFP on condition that his full name was not revealed. “I am exhausted physically and mentally.”

His problem is not the bullying by Japanese colleagues, nor the two-hour each-way commute or the mind-numbing work that largely consists of breaking apart bits of old buildings.
It is the one million yen he borrowed to take part in the program, apparently to cover traveling expenses and other “fees” charged by middlemen—which has left him a virtual slave to Japan’s labor-hungry construction industry.
“I cannot go back before I make enough money to repay the debt,” he said.
Rapidly-aging Japan is desperately short of workers to pay the taxes to fund pensions and healthcare for its growing gray population, but it is almost constitutionally allergic to immigration.
Less than two percent of the population is classed as “non-Japanese”, the government says. By comparison, around 13% of UK residents are foreign born.
The result for Japan, say critics, is ranks of poorly-protected employees brought in through the national back door, ripe for abuse and exploitation.
“This trainee program is a system of slave labor,” says Ippei Torii, director of the Solidarity Network With Migrants Japan, a non-governmental group supporting foreign workers.
“You cannot just quit and leave,” he said. “It’s a system of human trafficking, forced labor.”
Around a quarter of Japan’s 127-million population is aged 65 or over, according to recent government figures. This proportion is expected to rise to 40% over the coming decades.
The already-heavily indebted government—which owes creditors more than twice what the economy is worth every year—is scrabbling to find the money to pay for the burgeoning ranks of elderly, who contribute little in tax but cost a lot in welfare and health.
A far-below-replacement birthrate of around 1.4 children per woman is heaping further pressure on the population.
In most developed nations, this kind of shortfall is plugged by immigration, but Japan allows no unskilled workers into the country, amid fears they would threaten the culture of consensus.
But in 1993 as the economy was on the way down from its bubbly 1980s highs, the government began the Industrial Trainee and Technical Internship Program (TTIP).
The scheme allows tens of thousands of foreigners, mostly from China, Vietnam and Indonesia to come to Japan, supplying labor for industries including textiles, construction, farming and manufacturing.
However, it has been singled out by chief ally the United States, whose State Department’s annual Trafficking in Persons Report has for years criticised “deceptive recruitment practices”.
“The government did not prosecute or convict forced labor perpetrators despite allegations of labor trafficking in the TTIP,” it said in 2014.
Past allegations include unpaid overtime work, “karoshi” (death due to overwork), and all sorts of harassment, such as a company manager restricting the use of toilets or demanding sexual services.
The Japanese government rejects claims the TTIP is abusive, but acknowledges there have been some upstream problems.
“It is not a system of slave labor,” an immigration official told AFP. “It is true that some involved in the system have exploited it, but the government has acted against that.”
He insisted it was not in Japanese authorities’ power to control the behavior of middlemen but insisted such organizations were not allowed to charge deposit fees.
“It is also banned for employers to take away trainees’ passports,” he added.
Prime Minister Shinzo Abe has unveiled a plan to expand the TTIP to allow workers to stay five years instead of three, and says foreign labor will increasingly be needed, particularly in the booming construction industry ahead of the Tokyo Olympics 2020.
He also knows healthcare must look abroad to plug its shortfall.
“It has been said that we will need one million caregivers for the elderly by 2025, which would be impossible to handle only with the Japanese population,” said Tatsumi Kenmochi, a manager at a care home near Tokyo that employs Indonesian nurses.
For her, foreign staff are a precious commodity and the business has to do as much as it can to make them feel welcome.
“It must be hard to leave home and work overseas. We make sure that they don’t get homesick, listening to them and sometimes going out to have a warm bowl of noodles, with them.”
For Solidarity Network’s Torii, this is the kind of attitude Japan needs.
“The issue is not whether we accept immigrants or not,” he said. “They are already here, playing a vital role in our society.”




Parents arrested for starving 3-year-old daughter to death

Police in Ibaraki City, Osaka, have arrested a 22-year-old man and his 19-year-old wife for allegedly starving their 3-year-old daughter to death earlier this year.
Police said Yuki Kishimoto and his wife, who cannot be named because she is a minor, have denied the charge.
NTV reported that the couple began depriving their daughter Sayane of food in February, leaving her severely malnourished. Kishimoto called 119 on June 15 and said that Sayane had lost consciousness. She was taken to hospital where she died later.
An autopsy revealed bits of candle wax, aluminium foil and onion skin in the girl’s stomach. Doctors said she weighed only 8 kilograms, about half the weight of a normal child her age.
Police quoted the Kishimotos as saying they had not abused their child and that she had suddenly become very frail only days before her death. They also said Sayane suffered from a muscular disorder, congenital myopathy, since she was born, which they believe caused her death.
However, police said that while the hospital confirmed Sayane had the muscular disorder, the autopsy revealed malnutrition as the cause of death, NTV reported.
Media also reported that the medical examiner found numerous bruises and other marks indicating physical abuse on the Sayane’s body.
The couple also has a son but police said there were no signs that he had been abused.


Monday, November 24, 2014

Japanese Police Launch Groping Eradication Project / Xerox's CEO says - "It’s Not Your Kids Holding Your Career Back. It’s Your Husband." /

It’s Not Your Kids Holding Your Career Back. It’s Your Husband.

By Jessica Grose

Almost a decade ago, the writer Linda Hirshman exhorted ambitious women to marry men with less money or social capital than they had. In articles and her book,Get to Work, she told women that they should avoid ever taking on more than half of the housework or child care. How to do it? Either marry a man who is extremely committed to equality, or do what she says is the easier route and “marry down.” Hirshman explained in the American Prospect that such a choice is not “brutally strategic,” it’s just smart. “If you are devoted to your career goals and would like a man who will support that, you're just doing what men throughout the ages have done: placing a safe bet.”

This was a highly controversial piece of advice at the time, but Hirshman might have been right. A new study of Harvard Business School graduatesfrom HBS’s Robin Ely and Colleen Ammerman and Hunter College sociologist Pamela Stone shows that high-achieving women are not meeting the career goals they set for themselves in their 20s. It’s not because they’re “opting out” of the workforce when they have kids, but because they’re allowing their partners’ careers to take precedence over their own.
The study’s authors interviewed 25,000 men and women who graduated from Harvard Business School over the past several decades. The male graduates were much more likely to be in senior management positions and have more responsibility and more direct reports than their female peers. But why? It’s not because women are leaving the workforce en masse. The authors found, definitively, that the “opt-out” explanation is a myth. Among Gen X and baby boomers they surveyed, only 11 percent of women left the workforce to be full-time moms. That figure is lower for women of color—only 7 percent stopped working. The vast majority (74 percent) of Gen Xers, women who are currently 32-48 and in the prime of their child-rearing years, work full time, an average of 52 hours a week.
But while these women are still working, they are also making more unexpected sacrifices than their male classmates are. When they graduated, more than half of male HBS grads said they expected their careers would take precedence over their partners’. Only 7 percent of Gen X women and 3 percent of baby boomer women said they expected their careers to take precedence. Here’s what they did expect: The majority of women said they assumed they would have egalitarian marriages in which both spouses’ careers were taken equally seriously.
A lot of those women were wrong. About 40 percent of Gen X and boomer women said their spouses’ careers took priority over theirs, while only about 20 percent of them had planned on their careers taking a back seat. Compare that with the men: More than 70 percent of Gen X and boomer men say their careers are more important than their wives’. When you look at child care responsibilities, the numbers are starker. A full 86 percent of Gen X and boomer men said their wives take primary responsibility for child care, and the women agree: 65 percent of Gen X women and 72 percent of boomer women—all HBS grads, most of whom work—say they’re the ones who do most of the child care in their relationships.
Of course, marital arrangements aren’t the only force holding women back. Part of the reason these women aren’t advancing at the same rate as their male counterparts is that after they have kids, they get “mommy-tracked.” In many ways, they’re not considered management candidates anymore. “They may have been stigmatized for taking advantage of flex options or reduced schedules, passed over for high-profile assignments, or removed from projects they once led,” the authors note. Other studies support these findings, as they have shown that there is a real, substantial motherhood penalty that involves lower pay and fewer promotions for women with kids, because employers assume they will be less dedicated to their jobs (as do, we now know, their husbands).

But the personal piece of the female achievement gap puzzle is important, and it’s something that’s very difficult to shift. The study’s authors note that while millennial HBS grads are a little more egalitarian than their older peers, half of the youngest men still assume that their careers will take precedence, and two-thirds of them assume their spouses will do the majority of child care.
Based on these numbers, Hirshman suddenly seems prescient. Take a look at the current crop of female CEOs: A lot of them have husbands who don’t work. Xerox CEO Ursula Burns took a page out of Hirshman’s book and joked at a 2013 conference, “The secret [to success] is to marry someone 20 years older.” Her husband retired as she was hitting her career stride, allowing him to take primary responsibility for their kids. If becoming a CEO and having a family is what you desire, you might want to take that advice.



Police launch 'chikan (groping) eradication' campaign at Ikebukuro Station

by Japan Today

The Tokyo Metropolitan Police Department and several railway companies have kicked off a “chikan” (train groper) eradication campaign.
The campaign began at Tokyo’s Ikebukuro Station on Friday with an event to promote public awareness of the problem, NTV reported.
Police said that as Oct 31, they had arrested 48 persons for allegedly groping women on trains within the last 10 months. Police said, however, that the number of offenses is probably greater as many victims never report being groped.
The campaign urges women who are groped, and anyone who sees a woman being groped on a train, to alert station authorities or call 110.

Interesting Comment ....

Foreigners beware! Grabbing a groper can get you in more trouble than the offender. I grabbed a joker for taking up skirt photos on an escalator at a train staition in Chiba few years ago. He was detained for about 20 minutes, whereas I was detained for two hours and was told by the flops to stay out of Japan trouble. I've removed women from awkward situations on trains quite a few times, usually high school girls being ogled by some drunken oyaji. I push my way in between them and have been abused by the oyaji as many times as I have done it. It's good to see an awareness campaign, but I don't think it will do much to prevent chikan.




Men list top four reasons why they dumped their past girlfriends

By  Casey Baseel - Japan Today

There’s no fail safe strategy for forming a strong, permanent romantic connection. That sort of emotional bond operates on such a deep, personal level that the necessary ingredients will always vary from person to person.
But screwing up a relationship? That, it turns out, there are some pretty universal methods for, as shown by a poll that asked Japanese men what caused them to tell their girlfriends “We’re through!”
Along with fashion and lifestyle, women’s Internet portal How Collect covers dating advice. Looking to get some perspective from the other side of relationships, How Collect asked 30 Japanese men in their 20s what triggered their decision to break up with a girl. Their top four answers are below.
4. Going into hysterics

“If a girl and I get into a fight, I can deal with her crying or being angry,” began one 21-year-old college student. “But if her eyes roll back into her head or she starts shrieking or scraping at her scalp? Once I’ve seen that I get too scared, and even when she goes back to acting normal, I can feel myself tensing up. So if she does that, it’s over.”
You could argue this is pretty heartless, but some people already have enough trouble dealing with their own emotional and mental issues, and don’t have enough energy left over to handle someone else’s, too. In any case, the clawing at her scalp part is a serious point of concern, and it seems like the woman is in more immediate need of a counselor than a boyfriend.
3. Making fun of his academic record

“My ex graduated from Keio (a prestigious Japanese college),” recalls one 26-year-old civil servant. “When we got into an argument,  she said, ‘Where do you get off acting like that, when you went to such a fifth-rate college?’ I was angry, but even more than that, it made me really sad. I couldn’t help but feel that’s how she’d always been thinking of me.”
Japan puts a lot of value on education, and going to a respected school gives job applicants a huge advantage is getting the plum positions that act as a stepping stone to the economic good life. Sure, you could argue that by the time you get into your late 20s you should have developed a thick enough skin, and enough more recent things to be proud of, to not let a remark about your academic background get to you. You could also conclude that anyone who lords their trappings of supposed intelligence over you isn’t really the kind of person you want in your life.
2. Making fun of his parents
“I went out to dinner at a casual restaurant with my old girlfriend,” remembered another college student. “I said the food tasted pretty good, and she shot back with, ‘Your mom must not have been much of a cook, huh?’ After that, it was all downhill until we broke up a little while later.”
Family relationships can be complicated, and even if your boyfriend doesn’t gush about his parents, odds are the fewer negative comments you make about them, the better. Some people say “Nobody beats up my little brother but me,” and it might be safe to assume that most guys operate under the policy of “Nobody makes fun of my parents but me,” too.
1. Cheating on him

“Obviously, right?” asserted one 28-year-old motorcycle courier. “If she cheats on me, we’re braking up, no exceptions…I’ve even told a girl who asked how we could stay together, ‘If you cheated on me, then we’re already through.’”
Whether you’re a guy or a girl, the easiest way to tell someone you don’t really like them is by letting them know you like someone else.
You know something? Looking back over the list, none of these are attractive behaviors, whether you’re a woman or a man. If we give the hysterics a pass for possibly being the result of a chemical imbalance or unresolved emotional trauma, we’re left with making fun of other people and lying to them.
In short, guy or girl, if you’re a terrible person, odds are you’re eventually going to get dumped.



Man arrested for breaking into woman’s hotel room, spanking her with shoehorn

Here’s one you don’t hear every day – a man was arrested in Daisen City, Akita Prefecture last weekend on charges of entering the hotel room of a female acquaintance through the window before proceeding to strike her about the buttocks with a shoehorn that he found in the room. But just what could prompt such behavior?
According to reports, the man, a 25-year-old company employee, entered the business hotel room of the woman (also 25) at around 10 a.m. on the morning of Nov 9, using a ladder (it is uncertain if he provided his own ladder or if the ladder was already in situ), before carrying out his assault.
The man is believed to have confessed to his crimes, telling police, “I did it, I hit her with the shoehorn”. Unfortunately, he failed to elaborate further, so we have no idea what sparked the man’s fury and led him to commit the dual crime of breaking and entering and assault with a weapon.
Since the man entered the hotel room unarmed and grabbed the nearest thing he could use as a weapon, we’re guessing that this was a sudden crime of passion and not a prearranged rendezvous that went badly wrong. Luckily, the woman wasn’t seriously hurt during her ordeal.
Netizens have responded to this odd crime story with a series of bemused tweets:
“To go to the trouble of breaking and entering and then using a shoehorn as a weapon… Just how much damage could a person inflict with one of those things? Or was it some kind of… special shoehorn?!”
“Some kind of couples’ play?”
“Wow, I don’t get it (´・ω・`)”
“So, what happened, exactly? LOL!”
“Yikes, there are some creeps out there… Wait, this is MY home town!”
It seems that the only two people who really know what went on in that hotel room are the man and his victim.